God, Help Me Guard My Tongue
“Every woman, by her virtue or her vice, by her folly or her wisdom, by her levity or her dignity, is adding something to our national elevation or degradation.” -John Angell
These pointed words express a weighty truth that the Lord calls and exhorts us to as women. We have immense power and influence over our communities, churches, and families—and it starts with our mouths. In Psalm 141:3, David prays, “Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Following this and the many other biblical examples, let us offer up our words to God the Father and let us pray Scripture over the way we speak and the impact we have on others, that we may guard our tongues.
A Prayer for Women
Lord, may I be a woman who speaks with wisdom and has faithful instruction on her tongue (Prov. 31:26). Guard my tongue; I pray my conversation would be always full of grace (Col. 4:6). Wherever you lead me and whomever I encounter, O Holy One, my desire is that the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart would be pleasing to you (Ps. 19:14).
Spotless Lamb, I come before you humbled by your purity and your sacrifice. I want to be a godly woman who uses her influence to draw others to your Son, Jesus. I pray that, as I seek to use my words for your kingdom, I would be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). Let no unwholesome talk come out of my mouth but only what is pleasing to others that it may edify those who listen (Eph. 4:29).
Blameless King, you have given me life and breath and words to speak. I want to honor you and bring you praise. I pray my tongue would bring healing, like a tree of life (Prov. 15:4). Let me be a woman of knowledge who uses words with restraint and a woman of understanding who is even-tempered (Prov. 17:27).
You are God, and you are wise. I am made in your image, and all that I say and do should reflect you. Take my arrogance, my selfishness, and my pride. I lay them down at your feet. Rather than elevating me and seeking to make me known, let my speech make you known, Lord. My purpose is to make much of you. Use my mouth to glorify you and to tell of your marvelous deeds!
“A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down” (Prov. 14:1). May this not be true of me, Lord. I pray those who enter my home and my sphere of influence would leave feeling loved, encouraged, and filled with your Holy Spirit. Where there is anxiety, weariness, or frustration, I pray my words would apply the healing balm of the gospel. Help me to remember that “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Prov. 15:1).
Jesus, my Rock, and my Redeemer, though I may be tempted or drawn toward wickedness in my thoughts and in my speech, Lord, help your Word to be the anchor I cling to. I pray with all my heart I would stand on the truth that “the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart” (Heb. 4:12).
You have equipped me with all that I need to stand out for good. O great God, the only perfect one, hear my prayer and honor your words that I have prayed I want to be a woman characterized by her love for you and by Christ-centered wisdom and dignity that adds something to our national elevation in a time when we so desperately need it. I place these petitions into your merciful hands. May they be to you a fragrant offering. I love you, Jesus my strength, Amen.